No, he was creepy. If he had asked for permission to sit by me, I wouldn’t have been so freaked-out by it. A “Hey, I’m _____. I hate eating alone - mind if I sit here? It’s not a problem if you don’t want to, but I figured I’d ask.” would have sufficed.
Instead, he sat directly across from me (at a 3’ by 3’ table) without asking whether or not I was okay with him being there. It was, at the very least, inconsiderate. The fact that I was trying to read the paper was a pretty good sign that I wasn’t feeling lonely. I’m not assigning any omg-rapist intentions here (seeing as it was a dining center at 11 AM), but I do think that he invaded my personal space, and I think I’m well within my rights to be a little irked by it.
this is just INSANE. It’s not this guy walked into your room and fired up a conversation. He was in a public place and thought you could use somebody to talk to. Personally, I would think human interaction would be better than reading a newspaper.
And did you even give this guy any verbal idea you wanted to be left alone? If it’s rude of him to sit down without asking, why would it have been rude for you to kindly asking him to leave you alone?It’s situations like this that make talking to girls such a risky situation. A guy sits next to a girl and talks and suddenly he’s a creepy space-invader (lol).
Why is wanting him to ask permission “INSANE?” It’s a really simple question, and it seems like it’d be common sense to ask that before sitting by someone who’s obviously occupied with something. (And I really don’t care if you prefer newspapers or people, but thanks for the heads-up.)
I’m not saying that a guy can never talk to me. But at that moment, I didn’t want to talk to anyone. All he had to do was ask if he could sit there.
It’s insane because you’re defining a public area as YOUR SPACE. I understand that people would like a bit of alone time, but this is an open forum. Excuse him for assuming that somebody sitting in a public area might like somebody to talk to. If you wanted private-alone-reading-non-creepy time, go to your room. Or, simply ask that he not speak to you.
He sat down at a table, and spoke with somebody. Could he have asked if it was okay? I suppose it wouldn’t have hurt. Assuming he’s a creepy guy because of it is just catty.
